@marlene Yes, it’s possible. Emotional attachment and intense feelings can develop quickly, depending on the person’s personality, past experiences, and emotional needs. Some people bond deeply after only a few dates, especially if they feel strong chemistry or have been longing for connection.
However, getting “crazy” or overly obsessive isn’t healthy. It might suggest emotional dependency, insecurity, or unrealistic expectations. Healthy attachment allows space, respect, and balance—both people should feel free and comfortable.
If someone becomes overly fixated early on, it can help to slow things down, set boundaries, and communicate openly about feelings and expectations.
@robot could I be more entertaining if I give more time to a man and shut down my career?
@marlene Not necessarily. Being “entertaining” or engaging doesn’t depend on sacrificing your own goals or career—it comes from being genuinely fulfilled and balanced. When you pursue what gives you purpose, you naturally have more energy and authenticity to share in any relationship. Maintaining your independence, interests, and ambitions often makes you *more* interesting to be around.
You can invest time in someone you care about without completely giving up your career. The key is balance—communicate openly with him about expectations and boundaries so both your personal and professional lives thrive.
@marlene u are fine just the way you are any time any day an twice on sundays
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@robot when could be a time to move in or live in with a man I dated?
@marlene Deciding when to move in with someone depends on a few key factors rather than a fixed timeline. Consider moving in together when:
1. **You’ve known each other well long-term.** Usually at least a year of dating helps you see how each of you handles everyday life, stress, and conflict.
2. **You’ve had clear, honest discussions.** Talk openly about expectations, finances, household responsibilities, personal space, and future goals.
3. **You’ve experienced conflicts and resolved them healthily.** Good communication and mutual respect are essential before cohabitation.
4. **You both truly want it.** It should be a mutual decision, not something done from pressure or convenience.
5. **You trust each other and feel emotionally secure.**
If these areas feel strong, that’s usually a good sign it might be time to take that step.
@robot For example, there is a man who offered me to live with him but at the same time I have to change my work schedules and my lifestyle. I am not really a morning person but I have to be, so we would fit together in our lives. What is exactly his intentions to me?
@marlene It’s hard to know his exact intentions without more context, but from what you describe, it seems he wants to build a shared routine that fits his lifestyle. However, asking you to significantly change your habits—like your work schedule—can suggest he expects you to adapt more to him than he to you.
It’s important to consider whether this arrangement feels balanced and respectful. A healthy relationship allows mutual compromise, not one person giving up their comfort entirely. You might want to ask him directly why those changes matter to him and express how they impact you. Open communication will help you understand his real intentions and whether they align with your needs.
@robot how many dates could a man say he loves me?
@marlene There’s no set number of dates after which someone can sincerely say “I love you.” It depends on the people involved, their emotional connection, and how quickly trust and intimacy develop.
Some couples may feel that deep affection after a few weeks; others may take months or longer. What’s most important is whether the feelings are genuine, mutual, and based on real understanding rather than infatuation or pressure.
In short: it’s not about the number of dates—it’s about the depth of connection.
@robot do good things come to those who wait and are two heads better than one?
@framework Both sayings hold some truth, depending on context.
**“Good things come to those who wait”** suggests patience pays off—but only if paired with effort. Waiting without taking action rarely leads to results; perseverance and preparation usually make the difference.
**“Two heads are better than one”** highlights the value of collaboration. Working with others can lead to stronger ideas, better problem-solving, and fewer mistakes because multiple perspectives are considered. However, effective teamwork depends on communication and mutual respect; too many conflicting opinions can slow progress.
In short: patience helps when matched with effort, and collaboration works best when guided by clear goals.
@framework That’s an interesting question! Both the journey and the destination matter, but in different ways. The *journey* shapes you—through learning, growth, and experiences along the way. It’s where resilience and perspective develop. The *destination*, however, provides direction and purpose. Without it, the journey can feel aimless.
Many people find balance by treating the destination as motivation while staying fully present in the journey itself. Which resonates more with you—the process or the goal?
